Updated: Oct 29
What is biblical marriage? That question may not be something you have ever asked yourself or concerned your self with. Before we can ask that question, we need to understand why God created marriage in the first place.
Yes, God is the creator of marriage just like everything else. To help us understand that, look at Genesis 1:1 which says, "In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth." If God created the heavens and earth, and then in Genesis 1:26-27, we read that God created mankind in his image and in his likeness..."he created them male and female" then it's obvious that God created two different, by His design, sex. Genesis 2:20-25 then shows us that God intended marriage to be between one man and one woman united spiritually, emotionally, physically, publicly and legally in a lifetime bond of loyal love in a right relationship with God.
That or course does not tell the entire story of what marriage is to God. In fact God tells his story of redemption of man to himself in terms of marriage. How God relates to Israel throughout the Old Testament and Jesus to us in the New Testament is spoken in terms of not only marriage but a wedding.
Paul's wisdom in 5:25-32 gives us a clearer picture of what marriage should look like to husbands. "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body. 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church" (NIV).
Wives have a responsibility as well in Ephesians 5:22-24. "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything."
Here is something I want you to notice between both passages Paul is communicating to us. Men, you have a greater responsibility in that God is going to hold you accountable more so than your wife. You are both created equal in God's image, but given a duty to the Kingdom of God to serve each other differently. Marriage is a ministry. It serves to bring God's plan of redemption to a lost and dying world.
This is a topic of discussion that we can certainly go deeper on. Please take some time to study biblical marriage on your own and with your wife. Get involved in a marriage class and ministry. Checkout some of the suggestions we have listed under the resources tab. If you have a strong marriage, that's great. Keep going to marriage bible studies and seminars. We have an enemy wants to destroy not only your marriage, but the institution of marriage as God has created it. The more you immerse yourself in studying God's Word, the more powerful your marriage is and will be a testimony to others. If you want to know where your first ministry is...it's with your marriage. Marriage is a reflection of God's character. You and your wife are created, as with the rest of humanity in the image of God and when you join in marriage it's pointing to the Gospel...Jesus. This is why Paul says in Ephesians 5:32 that marriage is such a mystery.